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Cunnilingus is a lot like Reading Braille

Posted: May 02 2017

I’ve pondered this blog for some time as quite frankly my heart goes out to those guys who find the act of cunnilingus a daunting one.  I actually think us women have a much easier roll giving men oral sex as there's very little you can get wrong and let’s face it, I can’t imagine a man ever complaining about your mouth being around his BF!

For the man on the other hand I can see how performing oral can feel intimidating.  Dilemmas such as - Should I use my finger? Is one finger enough? Is 3 fingers too many and then the whole geographical issues of finding the clitoris and G-spot.

I think it’s a fair comment to say the majority of women do expect a man to give her oral sex.  However, I’m pretty sure most women would not like to think we were making the man feel nervous in doing so.  

Here are a few pointers to help you become a “Confident Cunnilingus King”:

First things first, let’s locate the clitoris.  When you travel down slightly past her pubic bone you will come to a fleshy knobbly mound of skin slightly hidden beneath a hood - this is the clitoris.  If you want to get all technical the clitoris actually is more than this roundish mound and in fact surrounds the outside of her labia lips which is why it is important to not just focus all your attentions on the main part.    

Now you know where to find it, let’s discuss how to treat it.  I think this is a good time to mention, it takes on average 20 mins to make a women climax, so if you want to see this through to the end then get yourself comfortable, be patient, learn to read her body signs and above all, enjoy!

Part her legs and if she hasn’t done so herself bend her knees.  This will give you a perfect position to get your face right in.  Take your index and middle finger and gently open her lips revealing her most intimate part of her body.

The clitoris is semi hidden within a hood but the more she becomes stimulated the more erect this will become.  Relax your tongue and with sweeping movements lick all around.  There is no right or wrong when it comes to where you lick first, however it is important to give a little attention to each area. 

Try inserting one finger to begin with and then a second.  Gently move your fingers in and out using a “come hither” action.  This is the best approach to use to stimulate her G-Spot which is located on the outside wall of her vagina about 2 cm in.  Continue licking at the same time as moving your fingers.

By now you should definitely be getting some very encouraging signs that she is enjoying what you are doing (if not check for a pulse!).  Start to focus your attention more on the clitoris.  This is where you will need to read her body language.  Every women enjoys a slightly different part of their clitoris being stimulated.  Some women find it too intense giving direct stimulation and favour more action to the side or even the top.  Experiment, wait for some feedback from her until you hit that bulls-eye.  When you do, increase the pace and intensity of your movements until the outcome is inevitable.

If you feel you are not getting the exact spot, ask her to play with herself.  Not only will this be a huge turn on for you, it will also show you exactly where she likes to be touched. 

Once you feel you have mastered the fundamental part of oral sex try heating things up even more by adding lubes.  There are many lubes which when applied either heat up or give a cooling sensation.  This will further stimulate her creating the hottest sessions imaginable.

Let me know if you think these tips could be helpful and feel free to share your ideas.

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